change and adapting
for those family and friends close to me, this week has been a huge one for me. for the last thirty something years of my life, i have lived in the united states; east coast, midwest, west coast – within the confines of the contiguous 48 states. not well traveled, but traveled enough, i decided that it was time for a change. so i took a big leap and moved myself to hawaii – oh yeah baby!!!
there are many reasons i made the move (in order of importance); 1) allows me to be closer to my kids, 2) i got a job doing what i love, 3) was time to embrace my inner islander ;). seriously, it is a move that was necessary to make and i have been taking it all in stride since the thought of moving here started until now.
there is truly something breathtaking and magical about this place. it is something to behold as it does something to the psyche. from the time i stepped off of the plane, it has truly been a humbling experience. the people, they go out of their way to be nice and help you – real sense of community. people here are not in a rush at all – my style, opposed to in the 48. there is a sense of ohana (aka family) here that is something truly warm felt by myself and i know others. from the hustle and bustle of downtown to the quietness of the valleys, this place has everything you could possibly want all packed in together that is good for you on so many levels.
something of this magnitude could have truly affected me in many different ways both negative and positive. it is a change for me for sure but one i know i can adapt to just fine. i had a moment and just realized what just happened to me; i took everything i owned, and knew about living in the 48, put it in 4 pieces of luggage and took a jet plane to paradise. sounds awesome, but you know there was much more to it. getting here and having time to stop, breathe and take in, i realized that i had been through a tremendous amount of change. but have i had time to adapt? in 24 hours, of course not silly. but i know i will adapt pretty quick because in my heart of hearts and soul, i know that i belong here. knowing and feeling that way about things always makes it easier to adapt.
change will always be friends, no way around that. we will have to deal with it in the ways that we deal with it. but a large part of dealing and getting through that change is knowing how to adapt to it. i could give you psychological run down but why not do it the zenthat way: adapting makes you good in your heart, mind and soul with change and validates your feelings and well-being. laymans: it just feels good!
you have to be open to taking the time you need to make change and adapt to that change. many just don’t give life the time it needs to work itself out. those of us who have a solid relationship with god know about divine timing. we know that faith and patience always persevere. the same goes here. you have to be easy and patient in your walks during your change and not try to force a situation until it’s ready to reveal itself (your adapting).
save yourself the hassle, precious energy and well-being. embrace and cope with change by adapting to your situation. be honest with yourself on all levels and you will be just fine.
in the words of my beautiful people: